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021|Your Self-Esteem Is Hurting Your Marriage: 3 Faulty Beliefs That Keep Men Stuck

March 25, 2025 • Episode 71

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The way you see yourself is shaping the way you show up in your marriage—whether you realize it or not.

Most men are taught to base their self-worth on performance, possessions, or the approval of others. But when your self-esteem is built on shaky foundations, it creates insecurity, defensiveness, and disconnection in your relationship.

In this episode, I’ll show you the three faulty self-esteem patterns that keep men stuck—and how to start building real, relational self-esteem that brings strength, steadiness, and deeper connection to your marriage.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ The three faulty beliefs that sabotage a man’s confidence and marriage
✅ How performance, possessions, and approval become unhealthy measures of self-worth
✅ Why men often hold their wives to the same harsh standards they hold themselves
✅ The truth about relational self-esteem (and how it changes everything)
✅ Simple daily practices to build grounded confidence and emotional presence

Key Takeaways:

💡 The way you see yourself affects how you see your wife.
💡 You don’t have to earn your worth—you just have to own it.
💡 Real self-esteem leads to more patience, connection, and trust in your marriage.

Practical Action Steps:

1️⃣ Identify which faulty self-esteem pattern you fall into (performance, possessions, or approval).
2️⃣ Practice separating your self-worth from what you do, have, or how others see you.
3️⃣ Try one of the at-home reflection exercises shared in the episode.
4️⃣ Catch yourself in moments of judgment—toward yourself or your wife—and choose grace instead.
5️⃣ Repeat the affirmation: “I am worthy, just as I am.”

Reflection Questions:

❓ What’s been the foundation of your self-worth—and is it working for you?
❓ How do your self-esteem patterns impact the way you treat your wife?
❓ What would change in your marriage if you started standing in your value?

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