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Better Husband
Better Husband, hosted by Men's Marriage and Relationship Coach Angelo Santiago, is the podcast for married men who want to strengthen and transform their marriages. After 12 years of marriage—including a near-divorce that became the catalyst for profound change—Angelo has dedicated himself to helping men learn the skills to be the husband their spouse deserves.
With a background in facilitating in-person men’s retreats, online men’s communities, and one-on-one coaching, Angelo brings expertise in relational dynamics, men’s issues, and the essential skills for a thriving marriage.
Each week, listeners will gain practical tools, actionable insights, and relatable stories. If you’re ready to communicate better, resolve conflicts effectively, and deepen your intimacy, Better Husband is your guide to answering the question, “How can I be a better husband?”
Better Husband
023|Staying Quiet Isn’t Helping—Here’s What She Actually Needs From You
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You stay calm. You keep the peace. You don’t push back.
You think that makes you a good husband.
But what if staying quiet is actually making things worse?
In this episode, we’re unpacking the hidden cost of passivity in marriage—and why emotional withdrawal can feel more damaging than raised voices. If you’ve ever thought, “At least I’m not making it worse,” this episode will show you what your silence might really be saying.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why “not fighting” doesn’t always mean “being safe”
✅ How emotional withdrawal creates disconnection
✅ The difference between avoiding conflict and avoiding intimacy
✅ What your wife is actually craving in hard moments
✅ How to shift from being passive to being present
Key Takeaways:
💡 Passivity isn’t peace—it’s emotional absence.
💡 Withholding is a form of control, just a quieter one.
💡 Your wife doesn’t want compliance—she wants connection.
Practical Action Steps:
1️⃣ Notice your passive patterns—when you shrink, stay quiet, or say “It’s not worth it.”
2️⃣ Pause and breathe when you feel the urge to check out.
3️⃣ Name your emotions, even if they feel messy or incomplete.
4️⃣ Practice staying in the room—mentally, emotionally, relationally.
5️⃣ Choose to respond from your Wise Adult, not your Adaptive Child.
Reflection Questions:
❓ Where have you been withholding—emotionally, sexually, mentally, or energetically?
❓ What are you afraid might happen if you showed up more fully?
❓ What would change in your marriage if you stopped playing it safe—and started being real?
Ready to Take Action?
If you’re serious about showing up differently in your marriage, Better Husband Academy is your next step.
It’s a structured course and community built for men like you... men who are done guessing, done coasting, and ready to create a marriage with clarity, strength, and heart.
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