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Better Husband
Better Husband, hosted by Men's Marriage and Relationship Coach Angelo Santiago, is the podcast for married men who want to strengthen and transform their marriages. After 12 years of marriage—including a near-divorce that became the catalyst for profound change—Angelo has dedicated himself to helping men learn the skills to be the husband their spouse deserves.
With a background in facilitating in-person men’s retreats, online men’s communities, and one-on-one coaching, Angelo brings expertise in relational dynamics, men’s issues, and the essential skills for a thriving marriage.
Each week, listeners will gain practical tools, actionable insights, and relatable stories. If you’re ready to communicate better, resolve conflicts effectively, and deepen your intimacy, Better Husband is your guide to answering the question, “How can I be a better husband?”
Better Husband
024|When You Feel More Like Roommates Than Lovers—How to Rebuild Connection in Your Marriage
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Tell me if this sounds familiar: Everything looks “okay” on the surface.
You handle the tasks, manage the schedule, keep things running.
But under all the logistics, something’s off. You’re not arguing but you’re also not laughing, talking, or feeling as close as you used to.
In this episode of Better Husband, we’re unpacking what really causes emotional disconnection in marriage and how to rebuild that spark with intention, presence, and small moments that actually matter.
🎙️ When You Feel More Like Roommates Than Lovers—How to Rebuild Connection in Your Marriage
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ How emotional neglect quietly erodes a marriage
✅ What causes the “roommate phase” (and how to recognize the signs)
✅ Why being helpful and “doing your part” isn’t enough to create connection
✅ Three daily habits to rebuild emotional closeness
✅ How to lead your marriage back into intimacy—without overcomplicating it
Key Takeaways:
💡 Disconnection rarely comes from one big moment—it’s the result of small moments missed
💡 You can’t fix distance with chores. You fix it with presence
💡 Leading your marriage doesn’t mean doing more—it means showing up differently
Practical Action Steps:
1️⃣ Make one meaningful emotional bid per day (words, touch, questions, or appreciation)
2️⃣ Create 10 minutes of “us time” each evening—just connection, no distractions
3️⃣ Own the distance. Say, “I’ve noticed how disconnected we’ve become… and I want to rebuild.”
4️⃣ Catch passive patterns—like silence, avoidance, or over-focusing on tasks—and try something different
5️⃣ Lead with presence, not perfection
Reflection Questions:
❓ When did emotional connection stop being a priority in your marriage?
❓ What habits are keeping you emotionally distant—even if you’re physically present?
❓ What could change if you made one small emotional reach each day?
Ready to Take Action?
If you’re serious about showing up differently in your marriage, Better Husband Academy is your next step.
It’s a structured course and community built for men like you... men who are done guessing, done coasting, and ready to create a marriage with clarity, strength, and heart.
🧭 Join the Academy → BetterHusbandAcademy.com
🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
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📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com