Better Husband

Better Husband, hosted by Men's Marriage and Relationship Coach Angelo Santiago, is the podcast for married men who want to strengthen and transform their marriages. After 12 years of marriage—including a near-divorce that became the catalyst for profound change—Angelo has dedicated himself to helping men learn the skills to be the husband their spouse deserves.

With a background in facilitating in-person men’s retreats, online men’s communities, and one-on-one coaching, Angelo brings expertise in relational dynamics, men’s issues, and the essential skills for a thriving marriage.

Each week, listeners will gain practical tools, actionable insights, and relatable stories. If you’re ready to communicate better, resolve conflicts effectively, and deepen your intimacy, Better Husband is your guide to answering the question, “How can I be a better husband?”

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025|The First Move Every Better Husband Makes: Full Ownership

April 22, 2025 • Episode 74

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From the outside, your apology sounds fine.
You said the words. You admitted what happened.
But then… you added a “but.”

“I’m sorry I snapped… but you were being disrespectful.”
“I know I overreacted… but you started it.”

And just like that, your ownership disappears.

In today’s episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about the most overlooked repair skill in relationships: full ownership—without the “but.”

🎙️ The First Move Every Better Husband Makes: Full Ownership

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why most apologies don’t land—and how to fix it
✅ What “relational integrity” really means (and how to live it)
✅ Why waiting for her to go first keeps you both stuck
✅ The simple mindset shift that builds emotional safety
✅ A 3-question framework to guide every repair conversation

Key Takeaways:

💡 Adding “but” to your apology cancels out your ownership
💡 You don’t need to be wrong to take responsibility
💡 A better husband goes first—without needing anything back

Practical Action Steps:

1️⃣ Notice where you defend or explain instead of owning
2️⃣ Use the 3-step reflection: What did I do? How might she have felt? What will I do differently?
3️⃣ Practice clean ownership—no blaming, no defending, no “but”
4️⃣ Try one repair this week without expecting anything in return
5️⃣ Ask yourself: “Did I keep my side of the street clean today?”

Reflection Questions:

❓ Where do I tend to defend instead of own?
❓ How does my wife respond when I take full responsibility?
❓ What would change if I led the repair—without conditions?

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