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Better Husband
Better Husband, hosted by Men's Marriage and Relationship Coach Angelo Santiago, is the podcast for married men who want to strengthen and transform their marriages. After 12 years of marriage—including a near-divorce that became the catalyst for profound change—Angelo has dedicated himself to helping men learn the skills to be the husband their spouse deserves.
With a background in facilitating in-person men’s retreats, online men’s communities, and one-on-one coaching, Angelo brings expertise in relational dynamics, men’s issues, and the essential skills for a thriving marriage.
Each week, listeners will gain practical tools, actionable insights, and relatable stories. If you’re ready to communicate better, resolve conflicts effectively, and deepen your intimacy, Better Husband is your guide to answering the question, “How can I be a better husband?”
Better Husband
032|Not an Emotional Guy? Good. Here’s How to Show Up Anyway
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If you’ve ever been told you’re emotionally unavailable—and your first thought was,
“What does that even mean?”
This episode is for you.
In this episode of Better Husband, we’re talking to the steady, even-keeled guys who aren’t sure how to “feel more” without feeling fake. You’ll learn what emotional availability actually looks like (no crying required), and how to stay present in hard moments without shutting down or disappearing.
You’ll also hear how I used to think I was keeping the peace by staying calm—but I was really avoiding connection. And what happened when I finally started showing up emotionally, even if I didn’t always get the words right.
🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ What emotional availability really means (and what it doesn’t)
✅ Why “I’m fine” can feel like rejection
✅ The training most men received—and how it works against intimacy
✅ How emotional disconnection hurts you, not just your wife
✅ A 3-step practice for showing up emotionally without losing yourself
✅ How one small shift can begin to rebuild trust and connection
💡 Key Takeaway:
You don’t need to become a different man.
You just need to bring more of yourself—your truth, your presence—into your marriage.
Even if it’s messy. Even if it’s quiet.
That’s what creates connection.
🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Name one emotion you’re feeling—even if you’re unsure
2️⃣ Say one honest sentence out loud (e.g. “I feel off today” or “I’m trying to stay in it”)
3️⃣ Stay with the discomfort for 30 seconds longer than you usually would
4️⃣ Repeat this practice anytime you feel the urge to shut down
🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ What moments tend to make you shut down or pull away?
❓ What emotion have you been avoiding lately?
❓ What might shift in your relationship if you stayed emotionally present—even just 60 seconds longer?
Ready to Take Action?
If you’re serious about showing up differently in your marriage, Better Husband Academy is your next step.
It’s a structured course and community built for men like you... men who are done guessing, done coasting, and ready to create a marriage with clarity, strength, and heart.
🧭 Join the Academy → BetterHusbandAcademy.com
🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
📺 Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com