035|Be the Piece That Moves: How to Lead When Your Marriage Is on the Edge

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She’s distant. Checked out. Maybe she’s even told you she’s done. And you’re stuck wondering if it’s too late or waiting for the right time to bring it up.

In this episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about what most men miss when their marriage starts to fall apart: they freeze, they wait, and they tell themselves they’re keeping the peace. But waiting is what’s breaking your connection. You’ll learn why passivity isn’t neutral, how to move first without needing it to be fair, and what it means to lead with relational generosity, even when she’s not meeting you there yet.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why most marriages die in silence, not conflict
✅ The difference between patience and avoidance
✅ What “moving first” actually looks like in a real relationship
✅ How to lead with generosity instead of keeping score
✅ What relational leadership is—and why your wife needs it from you
✅ The small actions that rebuild connection when words aren’t enough

💡 Key Takeaway:

Most men don’t lose their marriage because of one big mistake.
They lose it by doing nothing—by waiting too long to act.
If you want to save your marriage, you have to be the piece that moves.
Even if your hands are shaking, even if it’s messy—move first.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:

1️⃣ Identify one area in your marriage where you’ve been waiting or avoiding
2️⃣ Ask yourself: If nothing changes, where is this heading?
3️⃣ Choose one small way to move toward her—gently, honestly, without needing a perfect plan
4️⃣ Lead with generosity, not blame—show her that your presence isn’t earned, it’s given

🧠 Reflection Questions:

❓ Where in my marriage have I been waiting for her to go first?
❓ What discomfort or fear has been holding me back from leading?
❓ If I moved first this week—with care and courage—what might shift?

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Chapters

• 0:00 What Jurassic Park Can Teach You About Marriage
• 1:10 Why Waiting Feels Safe—But Costs You Everything
• 2:26 When She Said It Might Be Over… And He Finally Moved
• 4:10 The Cost of Passivity in Marriage
• 5:13 What You’re Calling Patience Is Actually Avoidance
• 7:10 What “Moving First” Really Looks Like in Marriage
• 8:40 The Winning Strategy That Breaks the Standoff
• 10:48 Action Steps for This Week: Move First
• 12:24 Freeze, Flee, or Lead... It's Your Move