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Better Husband

Better Husband, hosted by men’s marriage and relationship coach Angelo Santiago, is a podcast for any man who’s ever asked, “How can I be a better husband?”

Each week, you’ll learn simple, practical ways to fix your marriage, reconnect with your wife, rebuild trust, and bring back real intimacy.

If your marriage feels stuck, distant, or on the edge, this podcast gives you real tools and step-by-step skills to communicate better, handle conflict, and build a stronger marriage that lasts.

After 12 years of marriage—including a near-divorce that became the turning point for change—Angelo has dedicated his life to helping men save their marriages and become the husbands their wives can trust and feel close to again.

Through years of leading men’s retreats, online communities, and one-on-one coaching, he brings grounded, real-world guidance on communication, conflict, and connection.

If you want to repair what’s broken, rebuild connection, and learn the skills to make your marriage work, Better Husband will show you how—one episode at a time.

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038|How to Bring Pleasure, Play, and Joy Back into Your Marriage

July 22, 2025 • Episode 87

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You’ve been doing the work. You’re leading with presence, staying grounded, learning how to communicate.

But what about joy?

In this episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about what happens when marriage becomes all responsibility and no pleasure—when everything feels serious, controlled, and emotionally tight. You’ll learn why bringing joy back isn’t optional, how control kills connection, and what it looks like to create space for play, pleasure, and lightness in your relationship again.

Because no matter how solid your skills are, a joyless marriage won’t last.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why control is the enemy of joy
✅ How emotional risk opens the door to pleasure
✅ The subtle ways you may be shutting joy down without realizing it
✅ Why pleasure isn’t about performance—it’s about presence
✅ How to stop trying to “earn” the right to enjoy your relationship
✅ The one question that can reignite joy in your marriage today

💡 Key Takeaway:

Pleasure doesn’t come later, after everything is fixed.
It comes now—or not at all.
And joy isn’t something you wait for.
It’s something you let in.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:

1️⃣ Notice one moment this week where you resist joy, fun, or connection—and ask yourself why
2️⃣ Initiate something playful with your wife that breaks your normal routine
3️⃣ Choose pleasure on purpose—through music, laughter, physical touch, or shared silliness
4️⃣ Ask her directly: “What would bring you joy this week?”

🧠 Reflection Questions:

❓ Where have I made joy something I have to earn?
❓ When was the last time we truly laughed together—and what allowed it?
❓ What do I need to release in order to invite pleasure and play back into our relationship?

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Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com