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Better Husband
Better Husband, hosted by men’s marriage and relationship coach Angelo Santiago, is a podcast for any man who’s ever asked, “How can I be a better husband?”
Each week, you’ll learn simple, practical ways to fix your marriage, reconnect with your wife, rebuild trust, and bring back real intimacy.
If your marriage feels stuck, distant, or on the edge, this podcast gives you real tools and step-by-step skills to communicate better, handle conflict, and build a stronger marriage that lasts.
After 12 years of marriage—including a near-divorce that became the turning point for change—Angelo has dedicated his life to helping men save their marriages and become the husbands their wives can trust and feel close to again.
Through years of leading men’s retreats, online communities, and one-on-one coaching, he brings grounded, real-world guidance on communication, conflict, and connection.
If you want to repair what’s broken, rebuild connection, and learn the skills to make your marriage work, Better Husband will show you how—one episode at a time.
Better Husband
040|You Messed Up... Again—Here’s How to Recover and Come Back Stronger
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You were doing better. You’ve been putting in the work. And then you lost it. Snapped. Shut down. Did the one thing you promised yourself you wouldn’t do again.
It’s a familiar moment for a lot of men: the shame hits hard, the story in your head says “you blew it,” and you start to wonder if any of this change actually matters.
In this episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about how to recover after a setback in your marriage. How to stop the spiral. How to own it without self-punishment. And how to lead again—grounded, not perfect.
🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why messing up doesn’t undo all your progress
✅ How to keep showing up—even after a major slip
✅ What real ownership looks like (without shame or groveling)
✅ How to respond to her pain without making it all about you
✅ The difference between repair and performance
✅ One practice to help you come back stronger the next time
💡 Key Takeaway:
You’re not measured by how many days you go without messing up.
You’re measured by how you come back when you do.
Real trust is built when you lead through the hard moments—not just the easy ones.
🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Name the last time you slipped—big or small. No spin. No shame. Just name it clearly and honestly.
2️⃣ Interrupt the shame spiral. When the voice says, “Here we go again,” take a breath and say, “I messed up… and I’m still worthy.”
3️⃣ Choose one relational practice to reengage—your breath, affection, a check-in, or something you’ve let slip.
4️⃣ If your mistake impacted her, repair it. Use the 4-Step Apology:
→ Own it clearly
→ Acknowledge the pattern
→ Name the root
→ Offer a repair
Then let go of how it’s received. Just stay grounded and available.
🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ What’s my relationship with failure? Do I collapse, defend, or avoid?
❓ What does my inner voice sound like when I fall short—and who does it sound like?
❓ Can I hold myself in warm regard when I’m not performing well?
❓ Can I offer my wife the same grace I’m learning to offer myself?
Ready to Take Action?
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com
Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com