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Better Husband, hosted by Men's Marriage and Relationship Coach Angelo Santiago, is the podcast for married men who want to strengthen and transform their marriages. After 12 years of marriage—including a near-divorce that became the catalyst for profound change—Angelo has dedicated himself to helping men learn the skills to be the husband their spouse deserves.

With a background in facilitating in-person men’s retreats, online men’s communities, and one-on-one coaching, Angelo brings expertise in relational dynamics, men’s issues, and the essential skills for a thriving marriage.

Each week, listeners will gain practical tools, actionable insights, and relatable stories. If you’re ready to communicate better, resolve conflicts effectively, and deepen your intimacy, Better Husband is your guide to answering the question, “How can I be a better husband?”

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043|Connected and Protected: How Healthy Boundaries Strengthen Your Marriage

August 26, 2025 • Episode 92

🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop to learn Angelo's 3 Secrets to Becoming a Better Husband Without Endless Therapy, Hating the Process, or Pretending to Be Someone You Are Not at www.BetterHusbandSecrets.com

In this episode, we’re breaking down what healthy internal boundaries actually are and why being thin-skinned or walled-off keeps your marriage stuck. You’ll learn how to build boundaries that let you be both connected and protected, how to use them in the heat of the moment, and why they make your wife feel safer coming toward you.

Whether you tend to absorb everything and overreact, or you shut down and wall yourself off, you’ll walk away knowing exactly how to hold steady without losing connection.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why being thin-skinned or walled-off fails your marriage
✅ The third option: healthy boundaries that are both connected and protected
✅ A simple visualization practice you can use to build boundaries
✅ How to use your boundaries in real-time when tension rises
✅ What healthy boundaries look like at work and at home

💡 Key Takeaway:
You don’t need to armor up to protect yourself in your marriage. Real strength is knowing how to stay steady—boundaries give you the ability to respond instead of react, and to be both connected and protected in the moments that matter most.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Notice your default. Think back to the last conflict you had. Did you get thin-skinned and reactive, or did you wall off and disappear? Write it down if you can.
2️⃣ Practice the visualization once a day. Close your eyes. Imagine that safe place. Experience the feeling of being there. Drop the scene, keep the feeling, and build your boundary around you. Get used to what it feels like to be both relaxed and protected.
3️⃣ Test it in one real moment this week. When tension shows up—her tone, her frustration, or even her gentle feedback—pause. Remember your boundary. Ask yourself: What’s true here, and what isn’t mine to carry?
4️⃣ Debrief afterward. After that moment, check in with yourself. How did it go differently? What shifted in you? What shifted between the two of you?

🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ When was the last time I got reactive because I took everything in? Did I get defensive? Did I make it about me instead of hearing her?
❓ Where do I tend to wall off or disconnect instead of staying engaged? Do I go silent, retreat to work, or avoid the conversation completely?
❓ What would shift in my marriage if I could be both connected and protected? How would she feel? How would I feel?

Ready to Take Action?
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com

Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com