You’re Invited: Better Husband Community Call

👥 Join me live! Register for the free Better Husband Community Call on Ownership, Integrity & Repair — March 25 at 8:30pm Eastern (Live on Zoom + Q&A).

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Have you ever listened to one of these episodes and thought, yeah, that helped. That gave me something to think about, but I still have questions. Have you ever wished you could just ask me something directly, not write an email? You may or may not send not open 10 tabs, not search, Google, not type another prompt into ai. Not just sit there alone with more information, more insight, more awareness, and still wonder why it's so hard to actually live this stuff when it matters. Because that's part of what I've come to see very clearly. You can listen to podcasts, you can read books, you can go search for answers. You can get more and more and more information, and some of that can absolutely help. I know that because this podcast helps men every single week, but there is a point where more information stops being the thing that moves you forward. There is a point where what you really need is to. Get in the room to hear something live, to ask the question you've been sitting with, to hear another man say something you've been carrying privately, to stop trying to figure all of this out by yourself, and that's why I'm doing this episode. This is not a normal, better husband episode. This is a personal invitation to you.

On March 25th at 8: 1:07

30 PM Eastern,

5: 1:10

30 PM Pacific, I'm hosting a live Better Husband community call, and I want you to come. I want you to come hang out with me. I want you to come hear me teach live. I want you to have the chance to ask me a question if you want to, and I want you to experience something that I honestly believe is missing for a lot of men right now. Real human connection. Real men. Real conversations. So if you've been listening to this podcast from a distance, if you've ever wanted to ask me something directly, if you've ever wondered what it would be like to actually be there live, instead of just hearing my prerecorded voice, this is your invitation. I have more to say, but before I get into it, if you're like, yeah, I'm in. What do I do next? Then I want you to open up your browser and go to join better husband.com to save your seat, or just click the link in the show notes. Again, that's join better husband.com. But if you're still curious about why I think community is so important, then stick around and let me break it down for you. Welcome to Better Husband, the podcast that helps you answer the question, how can I be a better husband? I'm Angelo Santiago, a men's marriage and relationship coach, and every week I bring you practical insights to help you strengthen your marriage and become the best husband you can be. Now, I've shared parts of this story before on the podcast, but it matters here because this is where I learned firsthand that information alone was not going to save my marriage. There was a point in my marriage where things had gotten bad enough that my wife looked at me and basically said, I don't know if I can keep doing this with you. And when I heard that, I didn't just hear frustration, I saw a future. I saw a future where my marriage was no longer intact. I saw a future where my son would grow up without his father in the house every day. I saw a future where I would lose the woman I met when I was 19 years old. The woman I had built my whole life with. That was my rock bottom. And in that moment, my wife looked at me, pulled out her phone and said, I think you should go to this men's retreat. And I'm telling you, everything in me wanted to say no. Everything in me thought, this is ridiculous. This looks weird. This is not for me. What are these guys even doing? How is sitting around with a bunch of men supposed to help me with what's happening in my marriage right now? Nothing in me naturally believed that being in a space with other men was going to help. I still thought in some part of me that I should be able to figure it out myself, that I should be able to think my way through it, read my way through it, muscle my way through it, fix it privately, handle it on my own. But if I'm honest, I didn't have a lot of options. Because everything I had done up to that point was not working, and that's the part I want you to really hear. I didn't go because I was excited. I didn't go because it fit my personality. I didn't go because it felt comfortable. I went because I could see that the way I had been doing things was leading me somewhere I did not want to go. And at some point I had to ask myself a very simple question, what do I have to lose? If I say no to this, what happens next? If I keep doing what I've been doing, where is that going to lead? And that question changed a lot for me because the truth is, I wasn't being asked to have all the answers. I was being asked to try something different. To walk into a room, to be around other men, to get honest, to get open, to stop acting like I was going to solve the hardest parts of my life by myself. And I'm telling you, that decision opened something up in me that I did not know I needed. And this is the part where I wanna say something really clearly. There is no shortage of help out there for men. There are podcasts, books, Google, AI, therapists, marriage counselors, couples counseling, advice from friends, advice from family, more content than you could consume in 10 lifetimes. And still a lot of men are sitting there overwhelmed, full of insight, full of language, full of things they now understand better and still asking the same question, why isn't this actually changing anything? Why do I still shut down? Why do I still get defensive? Why do I still feel alone in this? Why do I still know what to do? And then completely lose access to it when the moment comes. And I'll tell you what I think. I think a lot of these spaces get one very important thing wrong. They keep giving men more information in private, more things to think about, more things to analyze, more things to understand, more things to go process on their own. And look, I'm not saying those things have no value. They do. I've benefited from some of them myself, but I'm saying this, a lot of men do not need more private insight nearly as much as they need real community. They need a room. They need other men. They need to hear someone else put words to the things they've been carrying. They need to be challenged. They need to be encouraged. They need to see they are not the only ones struggling with this. They need somewhere to go when they're spiraling somewhere to bring the question. Somewhere to say, this is what happened, this is where I lost it, this is where I shut down, this is where I don't know what to do. Because this is what I believe now after everything I've lived and after all the men I've worked with, you cannot heal the parts of you that keep hiding, keep protecting, keep isolating by staying hidden, protected, and isolated. And that is exactly why Community Matters. and that's really the point. What finally started changing things for me was not getting one more idea in my head. It was getting around real people. It was being in a room. It was seeing and feeling that there was another way to do this. And that's what I want this call to offer you. This is a live better husband community call and I want it to feel personal, real, and useful. I'm gonna welcome you in and help everyone settle into the space together. I'm gonna share a little bit more of my story, especially for those of you that may not know much about me yet and haven't heard how I got here. I'm gonna do a short teaching on ownership, integrity, and repair, and why I believe those are the foundation of becoming a better husband and creating a better marriage. I'm gonna share more my vision for the Greater, better Husband community, and why this matters so much to me and what I believe is possible when men stop trying to do all of this alone. And then I'm going to open it up. If you want to ask me a question about the community, about something I teach, about my story, about your marriage, about something you heard me say on the podcast and want more clarity on, you'll have the chance to do that. And if you don't want to ask anything, that's okay too. You can come. And listen, you can come and watch. You can come and just experience what it feels like to be in the room, because sometimes that's the first step. Just showing up and seeing what becomes possible when you stop standing at a distance and actually walk in. And honestly, even if you're not sure you can make it, I still want you to register. Go to join better husband.com and put your name on the list. Get the zoom link, put it on your calendar because you never know. Plans change, openings happen, life shifts. And it may be when that reminder hits your inbox and you see we're starting in 15 minutes, something in you realizes, man, I actually do need this right now. So register either way. Give yourself the option to come into the room. And I especially wanna say something to the guy who already feels resistance coming up. The guy who's thinking, I don't need this. I'm not really into groups. I don't like talking in front of people. I'd rather keep things to myself. I can figure this out on my own. I get it. That was me too. When my wife showed me that men's retreat, I had every reason in the world why I didn't want to go, why it wasn't for me, why it felt awkward, why it felt unnecessary, why I should just handle it myself. And that's where I had to ask myself the question I wanna offer you now. What do you have to lose? If I keep doing it my way where is that leading? If I keep saying no to the uncomfortable thing, what is that costing me? So if that's where you are, I'm not judging you. I understand it. But I also want to tell you, this is exactly why this may matter even more for you. And I'm not saying that because I expect you to come on this call and pour your heart out to a room full of strangers. That's not what happened to me at my first retreat either. I didn't show up and suddenly spill everything. I didn't break down in front of a bunch of men. I didn't walk in ready to be fully seen. What I did was witness. I watched, I listened. I experienced something different. And even though I wasn't ready to fully step in yet, just seeing what was possible changed me. It showed me that there was another way to be as a man, another way to be in relationship, another way to stop carrying everything alone. And that changed the trajectory of my life because the next time I walked into a room like that, I was ready. So if all you do on this call is come and witness, then come and witness. Just come. Let yourself see what might be possible for you too. So if this is speaking to you, here's your invitation. Join me live for the Better Husband Community call on March 25th at

8:30 PM Eastern, 5: 10:00

30 PM Pacific. Go to join better husband.com and register, or just click the link in the show notes. That's it. Just go put your name on the list, save the zoom link, put it on your calendar, and leave the door open for yourself to walk through. Come and hang out with me. Come and listen. Come and ask a question. Come and get a feel for what this community is all about and why I care so much about building it. And even if you're not totally sure you can make it, I still want you to register. Because you never know what that day is gonna feel like when it gets here. You never know what kind of week you'll be having, what kind of conversation you and your wife may have had, what kind of frustration or clarity or openness might be there in you when that reminder email comes through. And it may be the exact moment you realize, yeah, I need to get in this room. So go to join better husband.com and sign up. Now, thanks again for being here and joining me on Better Husband. I'm Angelo Santiago and I'll see you on our Better Husband Community Call.